How Can One Restart Life ?

Posted by Carmen Isais on Sep 16, 2009 in Uncategorized | 4 comments
a t m a ram asked:

I am 38 , healthy , male and single .

It seems to me that each day is exactly the same as the one before it . The excitement and hope I had when I was 28 has melted away. But, I am definite that if  I can recapture the enthusiasm I will feel better .
it does not matter if I actually achieve my dreams but I want to dream as I did previously …
can you share any resources on the web to help me ?
I am in India and cannot provide dollars for signing up with a NLP program with a life coach .
Thanking you in advance …

4 Comments

  1. lisa a
    September 24, 2009

    Try anti depressants, counselling , a new hobby , job or college course, exercise,eat healthily, take a multi vitamin x

  2. perfectlybaked
    September 25, 2009

    I am 27 and have never been on a date. I have thought about this OFTEN.

    I think the only legitimate way is to move somewhere new, not just in a new city but perhaps in a new state/province.

    That, of course, takes money.

  3. Shan
    September 28, 2009

    First…do NOT take an anti depressant! They are highly addictive and only cover up your symptoms. There are herbs you can take that will elevate your mood and outlook on life like St Johns Wort. That would be much healthier for you than anti depressant.

    I suggest that you meditate. I dont know how you feel or think about meditation but it truely is a powerful thing. I could not live without meditation in my life.

    Write down all the things that you enjoy, even things you know you would enjoy but maybe haven’t done yet. Then try your best to make time to do those things. Life gets mundane when all we do is work, eat and sleep. Sounds like you need more fun in your life.

    I included some links that I think will encourage you.

    Take care and I hope you find the answers you seek. :0)

  4. Stuart L
    October 2, 2009

    I’m 61 years old; during the past 10-years i lost $3M American and have become bankrupt. I’m bipolar and I’ve lost all of my friends.

    I’m restarting my life with the following method. This is a method called IPSRT (Interpersonal Social Rhythm Therapy).

    If you type that into Google, you’ll get a lot of hits.

    It’s a method used for Bipolar’s to help them regulate their moods, but it might help you recapture your enthusiasm and feel better.

    1) wake every day at the same time; early in the morning.
    2) exercise for 30-60 minutes (exercise increases Serotonin and combats depression).
    3) eat healthy meals (keep your weight under control)
    4) focus on those whom I love and take care of them (helps me have compassion and empathy).
    5) focus on my work; whatever it is; do a great job (helps to stimulate self-worth)
    6) contact at least 1 old friend every day and make a date to meet them; if you’ve lost all your friends, contact an old friend and try to re-connect.
    7) find something you like to do (read, walk, play music; whatever) and do it every day.
    8) pick an achievable, reasonable, goal. Figure out the steps to achieve that goal and start, today, with step 1. This doesn’t have to be a “great lifetime goal”. This can be a simple goal, such as “walk a mile”.
    9) clean your home every morning and neaten it every night before you go to sleep.
    10) set personal boundaries for yourself; if someone in your family or in your circle of friends crosses those boundaries, make sure you protect yourself with “when you do A, it makes me feel B because C; please don’t do A”.
    11) go to sleep every night at the same time.

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