Emotionally Focused Couples Counseling: An Attachment Approach

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term (8 – 20 sessions) approach to couples’ therapy which is grounded in research and the science of interpersonal neurobiology.

Strengths of the Attachment Approach and Emotionally Focused Therapy According to the International Center for Excellence in EFT:

  • EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.
  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.Change strategies and interventions are specified. Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
  • EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.
    Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy:
  • To expand and re-organize key emotional responses – learn to disrupt patterns in the relationship that don’t work.
    To create a shift in partners’ interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction – deescalate.
    To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners- create an emotionally safe place in the relationship.


Carmen Isais, LMFT

Carmen Isais, MA offers confidential, fee-for-service, consultation and coaching services to help both men and women move through tough issues, find meaning, connection and create a life they love. Her practice combines practical advice, support, reality testing and goal-oriented outcomes. Email mail@carmenisais.com to contact Carmen directly.